Learning to be alone and content with my own company is one of the greatest things I've ever done for myself.
I like to think of myself as a mostly self-sufficient person who's happiness comes from within, not from external forces. That's not to say that I don't adore the company of my friends and family, but I don't need their constant approval and praise to feel good about myself. My self-love is exactly that: SELF. LOVE.
Famous author bell hooks said it best: Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.
What an eloquent lady.
I've been fortunate enough to be able to live by myself for the past 2 years. And I've loved every minute of it. I hardly ever feel lonely, and if I do, I know that good friends are just a hop, skip and a jump away. I thoroughly enjoy spending oodles of time alone with my thoughts in my little bear cave.
People often think I'm crazy for wanting to spend nights tucked away at home with just a good book and a scotch on the rocks. They wonder if I'm angry, or sad, or depressed and maybe that's why I don't want to go out on the town with them.
On the contrary, my dears!
I'm one of those crazy-type people that not only enjoys solitude, but craves it. I need my weekly fix of "me time" to unwind and do the things that I want to do without the interruptions or distractions of having people around.
I love my friends, but I love Me more.
Learn to love your own company. I promise you won't regret it.
Sending solitary kisses,