Last week was a bit of a whirlwind. Between networking calls and events, job interviews, freelance work, being sick, laundering/cleaning/packing for my trip, and hanging out with my lady friends the week flew by way too fast. It's funny how life has a way of doing that, right?
Anyways - LA has been interesting. It's not my first time visiting this city, but it is the first time since I was a wee bear that I've gone "sight seeing" and what not. So far I've seen Hollywood Blvd and all it's tourism wonders, the Hollywood sign, the Getty Museum and a club that had a lot of potential to be an amazing venue but was ruined by the world's worst DJ. Le sigh. I hate it when that happens. The music snob within me committed multiple suicides.
It's been a nice, relaxing trip but I'm ready to party my face off in Miami! Not only is it my home away from home, but this week is my best bear's 23rd birthday. HAPPY BIRTHDAY BEAR! WHEEEEEE. SHENANIGANS! MIAMI, GIRD YOUR LOINS! WE ARE COMING FOR YOU.
Ok, so that's my little update. Moving on to the thought of the day....
I was watching Gala Darling's Ted Talk yesterday and I have to say that I am 100% obsessed with her Radical Self Love movement. It's been a lifelong motto of mine to always love myself more than I love anybody else, and also to realize that my self validation does not come from how others feel about me, but rather from my own self-love and self-confidence.
In the wise words of RuPaul .... "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love anybody else?"
Truer words have never been spoken. (And RuPaul's drag race is one of the best shows EVER in case you haven't heard.)
I have many friends that are always looking to their friends for approval, or looking for someone to constantly praise them. I have many, many girl friends that are always jumping from one relationship to another. They have this need to have a boyfriend. Without a man on their arm, they feel insecure, alone, scared, and most importantly WORTHLESS.
That is so dumb.
The greatest lesson I learned in my life so far is how to be self-sufficient. Self-sufficient in terms of living on my own. Self-sufficient in terms of trusting my own opinions. Self-sufficient in terms of being emotionally stable (most of the time). Self-sufficient in terms of having 100% faith in myself to do anything and everything I set my mind to... with or without your help.
My self-sufficiency doesn't come from the approval of friends, families or flings. My self-sufficiency comes from a place deep within myself. A place that empowers me, motivates me, inspires me, makes me happy.
I am my own biggest fan.
It is so important for every person to recognize their awesome-saucity and have faith in themselves. You deserve 100% of your OWN love and support. Nobody else can give you self-validation. Nobody is going to hold your hand forever and constantly remind you that you're the best.
Learn to love yourself more and you'll find that ANYTHING is possible.
"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection." - Siddhartha Guatama
Sending Cali kisses, xx Nikbear