Post-Grad 101 (Oh and Happy Summer!)

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Hello friends! Happy OFFICIAL summer. Memorial Day Weekend has just passed, and it's time to bust out your tight white pants.

I hope that you all had a fantastical holiday weekend! I had a great time with friends, family and loved ones. We swam, we danced, we drank, and we ate. We ate so much delicious food. Nom nom nom.

This long weekend was much needed after two very hectic (but very fantastical) weeks at my new job. OH YEAH I HAVEN'T TOLD YOU GUYS IN THE BLOG-O-SPHERE! I have a new job as a PR mastermind at a digital agency in Manhattan. I'm loving every second of it. Awesome office, super talented and fun co-workers, and fantastic projects to be working on. Couldn't have asked for a better set up.

My life is finally starting to settle.

It's working out just the way I wanted, only I never really knew I wanted it this way. It's a nice feeling to be happy with the way you turn out. To feel like everything's going to be all right. To feel like YOU are going to be all right.

It's been a long journey from graduation last May to where I am today. A long, difficult journey... but the trip was totally worth the destination. So what are some of the best real world lessons I have learned since graduating from college one year ago? Glad you asked!

  1. Patience patience patience. You cannot get frustrated with a shitty situation, a shitty person, or a shitty experience in the real world. Sometimes life hands you lemons. Add some vodka and grab some good friends. You'll get through the worst of times and come out stronger on the other side. I promise. It took me a solid year to find a job that I love. It's not easy out there, folks. Even with a college degree and a can-do-attitude. A very good family friend of mine told me last May, "Nikki... life is going to get REALLY, REALLY SHITTY right before it gets REALLY, REALLY awesome. That's just the way things are right now. If you stay patient and keep your focus, you will absolutely survive it." And damn it, Uncle Vip was so right.
  2. Keep yourself busy. Everybody knows that job hunting is the absolute worst experience in the world. It is frustrating and depressing and mind-numbingly exhausting. FIND YOURSELF AT LEAST ONE SIDE PROJECT. Pick up something that is skill building and a productive use of your time for those moments (or even days) that you just don't feel like writing another effing cover letter. I had like 18 different side projects going on just to keep myself busy (and I still have them on the back burner, don't worry). And, HEY, you never know what one of those little projects might grow into! One of my most successful and useful projects? This blog. Yeah, this thing you're reading right now. I started my blog a couple years ago just to get my inner ramblings out. I had no idea that people would actually read, share and comment on my posts. I've had emails and tweets from countless STRANGERS about how my blog posts helped inspire them, or gave them a nice pick me up, or just made them feel like they aren't alone in how the feel. I'm shocked but truly blessed to have so many loving readers. You guys are fantastic... all of you.
  3. Lower your standards. OK so let's face some facts. College graduates are a dime a dozen these days. The undergraduate degree has become what a high school diploma used to be. Everyone under the sun is going to graduate school because companies want to hire the kid with an MBA over the kid with the Bachelor's degree. For those of you like me who refuse to participate in more school (at least for the moment) and have chosen to take a pass on grad school right meow, you must learn to lower your standards. Recognize that you probably aren't going to get your dream job straight out of college. You may not even get an industry job straight out of college. Don't panic. It's not because you suck, it's just how things are sometimes. Don't be afraid of an unpaid internship opportunity if you think that you will gain something from it. If you've got bills to pay, get off your high horse and get a job waitressing/bartending/babysitting/dog walking/tutoring. Hey, money is money....
  4. Have faith. This is probably one of the biggest tips I can possibly give. Have faith in the universe. More importantly, have faith in yourself. You've come this far. You're obviously doing something right. Believe in yourself. Know your strengths and play them up. Remember that you REALLY DO kick ass and that you WILL find the perfect set up for yourself. As long as you believe in yourself, nothing and nobody can bring you down. As long as you yourself know how much you are worth, one day somebody else will see it too. And then they will be pay you for being naturally awesome. FACT.

And that's all I've got for right now. Feel free to leave some comments with your tips/life lessons!

I hope that you are all enjoying the summer, the weather, the smiles, the sundresses, the sights and smells, and the wonderful, glorious life you are living.

Sending you rays of sunshine, xx Nikbear